Dating as a co-parent is hard. Dating as a single parent is near impossible. It’s pretty difficult to find a decent, funny, intelligent, witty bad boy yet sweetheart as it is…
THEN he also has to be good with kids and willing to stay at home most Friday and Saturday nights to just cuddle instead of going out barhopping.
He has to be patient and kind and willing to pick your kid up and take them to the park when you need an hour to yourself.
Dating a single mom is one of the most challenging, unselfish, rewarding things you could possibly do and it should never be taken lightly.
If you’re the kind of person who’s already planning dates around when SHE can get a babysitter…please, don’t waste HER time with asking her on a second date.
She needs MORE and her family deserves more.
If you’re never going to plan family dates or don’t see yourself having a child looking up to you, don’t waste her time.
Single mothers aren’t on the dating scene to pick up “cute” guys or overgrown frat boys.
If you don’t have the openness and selflessness to be a father figure to another man’s children or child… do not waste her time.
Think about what you’re getting into before you lead her on. Make sure you’re going into it not only wanting to form a bond with her but a bond with her kids.
I guarantee, the moment she sees that you’re in love with her but not in love with her family is the moment that she will walk away from you…forever.
Dating a “milf” is not always hot, it’s not something you brag about to your buddies. Choosing to date a single mom is a huge choice. Its a lifestyle change. Its a commitment.
Yes, we do look great for having kid(s) and yes, it is impressive and we are overjoyed that we don’t look like dumpy frumps but we are NOT looking for someone who thinks we are just a trophy.
Our life is hard and we have a 24/7 job that is of the utmost importance. Any man who hasn’t experienced that for themselves needs to consider this before attaching themselves to a single mom.
If your not ready to put on your big boy pants and step up to the challenge, don’t step into the messy, beautiful, unexpected, all consuming life of a single mom. Save us the heartache.